Reasons Why You Should Stop Contacting your Ex

Love shouldn't hurt

Heartbreak can be one of the most challenging things to experience in life. Many people often struggle with the temptation to reach out to their exes when feeling lonely or vulnerable. In this article, we'll discuss why it's important to break away from these habits and move on with your life.

Your ex might be "over you" and not interested.

There should be a conversation at the end of the day, whether you want to end it, get back together, or cut them off. "You might ask your ex directly [whether they pretended to be indifferent to you], or you might be brave and vulnerable enough to express your feelings," Page notes.

If your ex pretends not to care about you, you may wonder what to do. It also depends a lot on what you want. But first, Page says, it's important to avoid getting so deep into characters that their natural behaviour becomes blurred to you.

You might be giving your ex false hope.

The longer you give false hope to your ex, the worse it will feel when he realizes the truth. They will see that your intentions differ from theirs and will go poorly. Don't hurt your ex too much. You may not want to be with your ex, but there's no need to hurt them.

Giving your ex false hope can lead to many positives but no more than the negatives, such as low self-esteem or hopelessness. Think about your happiness with your ex. If you negatively impact the process, the negative impact will outweigh the positive.

You might be doing more harm than good.

Well, it depends on the situation. If he/she hurts you physically or mentally, you should never reply to his/her messages; for your own good, block that person from all social media and try to follow anyone to avoid contact. If it's an amicable breakup and you think it's a good idea to be friends with that person... it's up to you, but I've never had a happy ending.

Well, Sam, you did blow things up. I understand what you're saying; your behaviour is a form of self-preservation. I swear I hear remorse or regret — or shame — for your own actions. Since I hate seeing someone hit me, I wondered if there is a better way to protect myself while maintaining everyone's dignity and respect? Maybe there isn't a better way, but maybe there is.

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Conclusion

There are many good reasons why you should stop contacting your ex. It can be hard to move forward in life and find closure after a breakup if you keep reaching back for what was lost, so take the advice of those who have gone before and make sure that you concentrate on yourself instead. Remember giving yourself time to heal is important so you can eventually look towards the future with optimism and hope.

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Reasons Why You Should Stop Contacting your Ex